Gottman Method or Couples Therapy

Every couple has work to do. Those who find lasting love know they don’t have to do that work alone.

Sometimes you still love someone but cuddling and compliments have turned to criticism and contempt. Maybe you’ve considered couples therapy but are scared it will devolve into insult hurling followed by an awkward, silent drive home. We want to assure you that it doesn’t have to — and shouldn’t ever — be that way. Our therapists are trained in the highly effective Gottman Method Couples Therapy.

Goals and Principles of Gottman Method Couples Therapy

Our couples therapy is skills-based, teaching you what decades of research in relationship psychology has revealed to be the keys to lasting happiness in love.

Our couples therapists have completed all three levels of training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy, the most evidence-based, effective therapy available for relationship improvement.

Gottman Method Couples Therapy involves structured and solution-focused interventions that help couples:

  • Deepen their emotional connection
  • Replace negative conflict patterns with positive interactions
  • Increase intimacy, respect, and affection
  • Repair past hurts
  • Rebuild trust
  • Recover from affairs or infidelity
  • Adjust to parenthood
  • Increase sexual satisfaction and compatibility
  • Create shared goals and values

Our aim is to help our couples experience an immediate increase in closeness and intimacy while building a solid foundation for happiness that lasts.

WHY WE’RE DIFFERENT

Effective, Research-Based Methods ONLY

Your relationship is valuable. Our couples therapists have completed all three levels of postdoctoral training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy and do not veer from this highly structured and well-researched method of therapy.

The Human Component

Therapy works best when you trust and feel comfortable with your therapist. We want you and your partner to both feel welcome and understood. We love when our clients tell us that we’re easy to talk to or that they look forward to coming in to see us. From the very start, our clients will see that couples therapy is different with us.

We are not here to be the judge and jury, deciding who is right or who is wrong. Instead, we provide education about relationships and coach you as you practice new skills. Instead of taking sides, we guide couples through difficult conversations, turning what would have typically become a fight into a chance to see your partner’s heart and soul. We genuinely care about our couples and love this work, so we will be 100% with you, rooting for your relationship every step of the way.

Guts

Talking about tough topics with your spouse is never easy, but relationship repair depends on both partners feeling calm and heard. We take an active role in couples sessions to ensure that things remain calm and productive. This is not your unstructured therapy session where you come in with your partner, fight about a number of issues, and leave feeling bad. In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, you are here to learn and practice new skills that will continually move your relationship forward. When old habits like criticism or defensiveness arise, we will intervene and get the conversation back on track. With some practice, couples are eventually able to adopt these new habits into their daily lives.

 

WHAT TO EXPECT

Couples who enter into Gottman Method Couples Therapy participate in a phased therapy approach that happens in two phases. Phase 1 is the “Relationship Assessment and Analysis” followed by weekly therapy sessions in Phase 2.

 

Phase 1: Assessment

Gottman Method Couples Therapy begins with a four-session introduction and assessment phase.

 

Session 1: During the first session, the therapist will meet with the couple to gather a history of the relationship and provide a basic introduction to Gottman Method Couples Therapy. Both partners will also be asked to complete an online assessment that measures various aspects of relationship well-being after they leave. The assessment will be transmitted to the therapist when completed and she will score and analyze the results to integrate into the treatment plan.

Sessions 2 & 3: The therapist will meet with each partner individually to gather their personal histories and reports.

Session 4: The therapist and couple will reconvene to discuss the results of the assessment. During this meeting, the therapist will provide a recommended treatment plan. Skills training and an initial intervention exercise will also be introduced.

 

Phase 2: Therapy

Once the assessment is complete, most couples return for weekly intervention sessions. The frequency and duration of therapy sessions can be adjusted depending on a couple’s goals for therapy.

Therapy sessions are structured, solution-focused, and skills-based. Couples are provided with handouts and guided through exercises designed to yield efficient results. Many couples feel significantly closer right away while also gaining practical skills they can maintain after therapy concludes.

Couples often find that the therapy experience is so positive for them that may come in for a “refresher” appointment at the six-month, 12-month, and 18-month mark after regular therapy ends.

 

Intensive Couples Packages

Our Gottman couples therapists also offer half-day, full-day, and two-day assessment, therapy, and pre-marital preparation packages for couples who want to move more quickly toward resolving specific issues, achieve significant results in a short amount of time, or whose schedules make it difficult to attend weekly therapy sessions.

 

Half-Day Express Relationship Assessment

This assessment package is ideal for couples who want to quickly get through the interviews required for the assessment phase of Gottman Method Couples Therapy so that they can more quickly move on to feedback and therapy. The package includes a 90-minute couples history interview, two 60-minute individual interviews (one for each partner), and links to the online Gottman Relationship Checkup Questionnaires.

 

One-Day Complete Relationship Assessment

This assessment package is ideal for couples who want to complete the entire assessment phase of Gottman Method Couples Therapy, including receiving the results of their relationship analysis, all in one day. Completing this package enables a couple to immediately begin therapy. The package includes a 90-minute couples history interview, two 60-minute individual interviews (one for each partner), analysis of the couple’s Relationship Checkup Questionnaire results, feedback regarding the strengths and challenges of the relationship, and recommendations for therapy.

One-Day Relationship Renewal (Without Assessment)

This one-day session is intended for couples who have already completed the Gottman Method Couples Therapy assessment process and who would like to move quickly through specific issues in their relationship. This can also be a useful session for couples experiencing a crisis who need focused support to address the issue.

Included in this package:

  • Five hours of personalized relationship skill-building and therapy
  • A take-home package of tools and supplemental materials
  • Coffee and snacks

Two-Day Relationship Renewal (With Assessment)

Intended for couples who are new to the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy and who want quick results, this two-day package includes the entire assessment phase as well as a full-day of therapy and skill-building. On the first day, couples complete their assessment interviews and during the lunch break the provider conducts an analysis of the relationship based on the results of the couple’s Relationship Checkup Questionnaires and interview information. After lunch, the couple receives feedback on the strengths and challenges of the relationship, as well as recommendations for therapy. Positive interventions aimed at reconnection are provided before the day ends. On the second day, couples participate in skill-building and therapy exercises that are selected to help them make significant progress through their issues in a short amount of time.

Included in this package:

  • An initial 90-minute joint history interview
  • Two 60-minute individual interviews (one per couple)
  • Analysis of the Gottman Relationship Checkup Questionnaires
  • Feedback on the relationship’s strengths and challenges
  • Five hours of personalized couples therapy and relationship skill-building
  • A take-home package of tools and supplemental materials
  • Coffee and snacks

One-Day Premarital Preparation

This one-day workshop is intended for engaged couples who want to strengthen their bond prior to marriage and learn the skills necessary to create lasting happiness, love, and union.

Included in this package:

  • Five hours of communication skill-building aimed at strengthening intimacy and preventing future relationship issues
  • A take-home package of tools and supplemental material
  • Coffee and snacks
How it works

Book your free phone consultation

Take our quiz to find the therapist who’s right for you and book a free 15-minute phone consultation.

Get familiarized with the process

During your phone consultation, your therapist will answer your questions and schedule your first visit.

Attend your first appointment

Your therapist will get to know you and offer a supportive plan to help you reach your goals.